I’ve thought a lot about this post I wrote, about the ex saying I shouldn’t put personal stuff on the blog. It’s a somewhat prickly issue about what’s considered acceptable public discussion as per your relationship.
I’ve stayed at a friend’s place for the last few days (the ex has some family visiting) and I think I might have accidentally put my foot in it last night and got my friend in trouble with her partner.
I didn’t even notice because firstly, I’m quite thick and secondly it really wouldn’t have occurred to me that what I flippantly mentioned fell under some unmentionable category, but I had this mild nagging feeling all evening that I must have done something wrong.
The partner doesn’t want my friend to talk about personal things and I had mentioned in a conversation:
b. Gossip teasing (opening a conversation by baiting with some alleged juicy gossip, which later turns out to be a blatant exaggeration. None the less, highly entertaining.)
c. Something about some landlord issue the friend had told me about.
Note: Landlord issues do not strike me as personal. I don’t know. I think the partner of my friend didn’t or doesn’t want her speaking to me about anything vaguely to do with home life. I don’t know what she thinks I’m going to do with that information.
Perhaps she thinks that I’m going to judge her based on it, even so I’m not clear how landlords would come into the mix.
Maybe I’m reading into it too much.
I asked someone if I could use their scanner the other day, they responded in the affirmative but ended the email with a “…”. Naturally, I read REAMS into that “…”
For instance, this is what I imagined those dot-dot-dots to mean:
… – I don’t even know you, why are you emailing me?
… – Are you seriously asking me for a favour when I’ve only met you once?
… – How dare you! This request is a MASSIVE imposition!
… – I hate you.
So with all that in my mind I’ve thought up some arguments against this ‘Information Exchange Ban Act’:
Everybody has personal stuff, I don’t see the shame in talking about it. Hiding = Shame.
If you can’t talk to your friends who can you talk to?
A relationship can’t be an island anyway. If you spend nearly all your time with this one person surely it would be impossible to exclude any references of them from all conversation?
Unless you’re a double agent.
Or a robot.
(Caveat: I understand that some things should stay private.)
If talking about a relationship is forbidden then all art based on/influenced by personal stuff should be banned – You shouldn’t be able to write about it, sing about it or draw things based on it.
That seems harsh, but I think fair.
Why should only talking be forbidden? Art lasts longer than a conversation.
This “You can’t talk about stuff to your friends” smacks a little of control issues.
You will only speak about things that I allow you to speak of.
You will only speak about things when I say you can speak about them.
Lastly how fucking boring would it be if no one ever talked about anything personal?
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