… SAID ALMOST EVERY BISEXUAL GIRL EVER.
I wish people would stop using the word ‘bisexual’.
The word is so muddied now – It seems to have no meaning anymore other than something to say to tantalise your pop-audience or the guys at the bar or your future husband. (I’m ignoring the bi-men right now.)
Which is a mega bitchy thing to say.
And I know it.
But that is the general usage of the word.
I also know there are many bisexual women out there who would be up in arms about my view,
…but they are probably way too busy being married to the men of their dreams to be either care or have a valid argument.
God, I’m SUCH an asshole.
I jest! – I was just bi-baiting. 😀 Please don’t kill me
Look, I’m fully on board with sexuality being fluid. I’m fully on board that you can fuck either gender or all genders or no genders and that your tastes may change.
But my issue is that everyone is bisexual. Everyone CAN sleep with either or both genders or all genders.
So it means nothing, saying bisexual. I just don’t understand it at all as a label.
We are all bisexual, to some degree.
Then when ‘bisexual’ is used as in the context of Jessie J it just muddies the water (which is all pretty muddy anyway)
I’m sure she’s being tongue in cheek with her quote above or just being far too honest but since she is in the public eye, this is what I feel the general impression is:
1. Bisexuality is a phase.
Which btw, in Jesse J’s case may be totally accurate but if you are a pop-star I think you have to self-aware enough to know that this will get maximum coverage in every paper, and therefore it might be sensible to phrase your retraction a little better. (Unless you don’t care about the response, which she certainly seems to)
“It was a phase, I want to find myself a husband now” while 100% truthful will play out in the media in a very specific way.
This in turn can cause assholes like me to have the seed planted in them early on, associating the word ‘bisexual’ with ‘phase’.
Which exactly encapsulates all my teen (and current) associations: Ever since I’ve been a teen there have various pop-stars (and a few people in real life) using this word, and then at some point later on they have usually rescinded it, (minus 3 mental bitch points – my bitch rating system btw) to go on to marry (minus 1 bitch point) & breed. (minus 23 bitch points)
And again, I think as a label it really means nothing. Why are we using it? I really don’t understand the usage.
2. After the ‘phase’ you are now ready to settle down and find you a nice mans. (or lady)
What a relief for your family.
I also feel like the word is used as a sop to your friends/family that may not be support a totally gay choice. One foot still on that side of the fence, as it were, should you choose to imagine sexuality like a finely manicured croquet lawn, with cross hatching grid lines, lots of coloured balls and a shortage of mallets.
My mother did once say to me “Well! I hope you are at least a bi-sexual!”
So I have a little resentment towards the word.
If we have to have a label then ‘Bi-curious’ seems to be a far more reasonable word to use.
If a label has to be shoved down our throats then at least it’s clear. Being 1/4 Austrian I have a vaguely Germanic need for clarity. ALLES KLAR!
You’re curious, and you like both. No decision or statement has to be made either way or incorrectly read into it.
Penis, Vagina, Everything in between!
Who fucking cares.
“I was honest and then BAM it took over, the word bisexual before my name on almost every article,” the pop star wrote. “Instantly I was boxed.”
Two albums later, Jessie J said she was “increasingly frustrated with still feeling like [my sexuality] was defining me as an artist”. “I am evolving into the woman I want to be forever, wanting a husband and kids one day and dreaming up my future just like everyone else,” she wrote, “[but people] want me to be someone I’m not.”
This comment thread on the article made me lolz though
Who the hell cares?
She kissed a girl and she liked it. Bowie-style bi-chic.
Now it was just a phase like some boarding school fumbler.
Why is this news?
Sinister_Dexter > Nobudget
I suppose it’s news because a lot of people go through a “phase” of being attracted to the same-sex, and isn’t this somewhat empowering for those people?
And when I say “a lot of people” I’m not talking about me, of course. I love the pussy. I’ve always been all about the pussy. If anyone came up to me and asked me if I wanted some pussy, I’d be like “yeah, gimme that pussy.” That’s what I’m all about, bro. Chicks, and stuff. All the time. No phases here, just pure manly pussy love.
What? Why’s everyone staring at me?
HAHAHAHA I want to be Sinister Dexter’s friend.